As a writer, I know that telling a story isn’t about saying everything.
Telling a story is about picking tiny aspects from the mass of everything. Then linking them together in a way that kind of matches up.
Telling the story of ourself works the same way. We pick out some things, but we leave out almost everything.
Then once we have our story we cling to it. We even obey it going forward, living within its parameters.
We forget that it’s based on tiny aspects from the mass of everything.
We come to believe that the story is truth, rather than the partial narrative that it is.
Part of my story is that I’m horrendous at DIY. Yet there is a book case in my living room that I put together.
It’s a fuller truth when I add in the book case, but it messes up my story.
A childhood friend didn’t do so well at school. They said he was “stupid”.
Yet he could take a bicycle apart and reassemble it when he was 6 years old. From that vantage point, he might be a genius.
Messing up a negative story is a good idea. Taking a second look and bringing in the fuller truth allows other stories to compete.
Our negative story is not truth. It’s just one story from the many we might have told.
What is the book case that messes up your negative story? What is the bicycle that turns your “truth” upside down?