What’s Your Point Of No Return?

32514762_mIf jogging and I were a celebrity couple, the magazines would say we had a stormy “off/on” relationship.

I go through periods of jogging, often targeted at some kind of end goal, like a sponsored 5k.

Then I stop again for months.

Next thing you know, I get fed up of my sedentary self. Me and jogging are an item again. Facebook status updates follow. I’m telling the world everything that me and jogging are doing. It’s romantic.

I enjoy running once I’m doing it. There’s a freedom in it. It’s nice to use my body. I feel potent to build myself to the point where I can run for a long time and not feel like I’m about to collapse.

Yet I often don’t want to go.

Once I’m out I’m fine. Having put on my kit and shut the front door behind me, I’ve never once come back in without running.

On a jogging day, I always set myself the goal of “going for a run.” I realise now that this focuses my mind on the wrong target.

Now my new target is to get out of the front door.



Getting out of the door is my point of no return. Once I’m stood in the street in my jogging clothes, I’ve won. I know the run will happen.

This switch has helped lots. When I focus on running, my mind trains on the negatives that come with it. The weather, the physical challenge, the feelings of discomfort.

When I focus just on getting out of the door, there’s not a load of negative baggage I associate with that.

This tactic has been so useful, I’ll be trying it out with other blocks too. Instead of aiming for the bigger goal, I’ll find my point of no return. Then target that instead.

What are you having difficulty with at the moment? Dial the process back so you can see each link in the chain that gets you there. What is your own point of no return in that sequence? Try making that your target, and let me know how it goes.

Alun Parry is Director of The Liverpool Psychotherapy Practice


7 thoughts on “What’s Your Point Of No Return?”

  1. Thank you for this it resonates with me on several levels. I am a big picture person but can get so intimidated by the huge challenges ahead I forget to see the trees for the Forrest. It is nice when others feel the same. Also, a good reminder of taking a step forward sometimes, just one foot then another.

    I too am a runner and find myself rarely lacking in motivation, yet it’s often the logistics that get me in the end. If running and I were an item, we’d be having a secret love affair, snatching secret rendezvous together when we can.

    Thx again for sharing ☺️

    1. Hi Amy

      Thanks for the reply. I always love getting comments. This technique is really working for me. I’ve just done my 10th run of my training regime which means I’m 4 weeks in without missing a single run. This is new for me. Even when the weather wasn’t so good, I got out of the front door. Once I’m past my point of no return, I’m running. Have you tried this method on anything you’ve been struggling with? Al

  2. You could have been writing this just for me Alun. I’ve been ‘planning’ to start running for about three months, and never quite getting round to doing it. Reading your words, and using the ‘focus on getting out of the front door’ actually worked. I just completed my fourth run – and have loved every minute of it so far. Thanks 🙂
    Can’t wait to start using this in other areas where I allow mental blocks to take over. I’ll keep you posted.

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