How To Get Started Again When You Lose Your Creative Mojo

December 2016 was a write off for me. I’ve not created anything for a month.

I managed to get one pre-recorded podcast out to the world. But I didn’t manage to promote it.

That wasn’t fair on my guest Sean. He taught a lot of great things. It’s not fair on you either. One minute I’m there. The next I’m not.

But Dad was ill. I spent most of December at the hospital. He and my family were my sole focus.

I realised that most things in life just don’t matter. Maybe we only see that when faced with one of the few things that really do.

Now that life has calmed down, my brain is telling me off for my lack of activity.

“You should write a blog post.” it says. “You haven’t written anything for ages.”

“You need to do another podcast. You’ve already missed one. You haven’t even got the next guest booked in.”

The thing with creativity is that it’s a muscle. If you want to be a writer, then write. Often.

If I stop, the muscle goes weak.

Then fear rises too. It’s easy to question whether I even want to do this anymore.

I could say that I’ve stopped because I don’t like it now. It was a play project, that’s all. So I can stop when I like. I could claim it was an empowered decision.

But it wouldn’t be true. I just got out of practice and got scared of writing again.

Every day I’m making notes about things I want to write about.

I’ve just not been writing them. What if I can’t write anymore? That’s what I’m scared of.

That’s why I’m writing this.

Sometimes we need some self forgiveness and grace.

We need to just do a little something – anything – no matter how small. Just to get started again gently. To get back in touch with what it is to create.

That’s what this is. A little something. See you soon.

Alun Parry is Director of The Liverpool Psychotherapy Practice

6 thoughts on “How To Get Started Again When You Lose Your Creative Mojo”

  1. Hi Alun
    I hope your father is doing better. It must have been an extremely difficult time for you
    Thank you for this post. In fact thank you for all of them. I feel a little guilty that I get so much out of your writing but I haven’t put the effort into telling you how helpful your posts are to me. I don’t have the writing ability to adequately express exactly why your posts are so helpful (my writing muscle is a little atrophied) but to hear someone else say how they feel and have it match my own inner experience is very comforting but also, because of your advice, very useful in helping me deal with my own challenges. Many thanks. John Paterson

    1. Thanks so much for this feedback. I really appreciate it. It’s particularly helpful at the moment because of an exercise I’m doing. Part of that exercise involves me wondering what, if anything, people get out of my blogs. I hate exercises like that because I tend to guess. So your post is exactly what I’m needing in more ways than one.

      Thanks too for sending good wishes on to Dad. He is doing much better thankfully, and is a lot more like himself again. I’d love to hear how things are going for you. Feel free to drop me an email. I was only thinking of you the day before yesterday.


  2. Hi Alun, really sorry to hear your dad has been unwell, particularly in the ‘season to be jolly’ – must have been very upsetting and stressful. No wonder really you’re feeling a bit burned out and devoid of creativity! I think you’re right to go easy on yourself, those circumstances are quite exceptional and we all must prioritise our nearest and dearest sometimes,

    Like John above I have found your posts very useful, inspirational and thought provoking during a difficult time of my own. I was directed to your blog a few months back by my husband, who knows one of your podcast guests. I enjoy the honesty and positivity and that I can ‘feel’ your kindness through them as I read or listen, if that makes sense? Like a good friend is telling me to see sense and find a way through this life that doesn’t frighten me. So that’s what I’m going to be to you, now- a good friend, albeit anonymous, telling you to give yourself a break, this too shall pass, and you’ll be back on the wagon now xxx

    You’ve done the hardest thing already in my opinion, by posting again, maybe set yourself some small goal for the weekend like booking that podcast guest, or making notes for the next three posts. Something to make you feel you’ve accomplished something worthwhile to give you a boost.
    Good luck, and lots of love X

    1. Hiya

      Thanks so much for that post. It’s lovely to hear your feedback and receive your empathy.

      I really appreciate your good friend advice. I planned my work calendar out yesterday. That helped orient myself back into work mode. And I wrote another blog post. Isn’t that the wonderful power of doing the smallest thing. The creative juices started flowing again.

      About the podcasts, I’d love to know what kind of guests you’d enjoy hearing me interview. I’m going to do just as you said and try to book the next one in time to be broadcast by the 17th. I’ve a few people in mind, and all suggestions or themes are gratefully received.

      Thanks again for reaching out to me. Big hugs.

    1. Thanks Sarah. And likewise, I’m heartened to hear back from you that I’m not alone either. I think we all tend to struggle alone with things that are often universal. It’s good to share and smash that myth. And break free of the aloneless.

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