Below is a collection of common questions that people have about psychotherapy and counselling.
Are you going to take me into the depths of childhood trauma?
No. Absolutely not. But you're right to worry about this. Many therapists do believe that it's essential to delve deep into childhood.
I don't work that way. I've long held the view that healing is possible without that. In many cases, going into past trauma actually makes people even more upset, and can cause damage.
Of course, if you want to share something from the past, you can. And I'll give you the time and attention you need. Sometimes we need to get things off our chest. You're free to do that.
That aside, I'll be staying in the present and helping you build the future that you want.
So therapy won't be traumatic and upsetting then?
No. Sometimes feelings can come up. And it's a safe place for that. But in the main, my clients find that therapy with me is uplifting and enjoyable. It sounds strange, but there's far more smiles and laughter than tears.
My expectation is that you'll find counselling with me exciting not upsetting.
But does that get results?
Yes. It's very effective. There's been lots of clinical studies into the approach I use. Not only has it been shown to be effective, but it can be faster too.
Will you be telling me to take anti depressants?
No. We'll be doing "talking therapy." We'll have conversations that I hope will turn out to be so useful for you that your life changes for the better.
Will you be analysing what's wrong with me as a person?
Yikes no. We'll be using what's right with you to make change in your life. You already have amazing personal qualities, and strategies that have worked for you in the past. You've gotten this far after all. There will be things you want to change of course, but I start from the standpoint that you're already pretty incredible. So we'll start there. That's a far more useful approach, and more effective too.
Will you be telling me that I'm going mad?
No. People often fear they are going mad when things begin to feel too much. What you're experiencing is almost certainly very normal given what you've been through.
Will you be telling me what to do and checking up that I've done it?
No. If I did, it wouldn't help you that much. The idea of "one size fits all" therapy may still be practised, but I don't believe in it. You're an individual. What works for some won't work for you, and vice versa. You need something tailor made to who you are. We'll figure that out together - and what we come up with will be much more likely to get results for you.
What's the first step to get started?
Give me a call or send a text to book your first session. Then we can meet up either at my therapy rooms or on Skype (an internet video platform). Once we've met you'll know if I'm someone you'd like to keep working with.
My number is 07889 787306 or you can email me at [email protected]
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